I am a Man Magnet

Its official.

Last week I moved to London and I became a Man Magnet!

There were gorgeous men everywhere ...on the tube, the train, the bus, in Waitrose, in the streets, in the bars. Were they there before or had my blinkered viewpoint only glimpsed the dodgy and down at heart looking guys?

Time aftyer time I found myself face to face with yummy looking guys. And the next incredible thing was that they were all smiling at me! Open hearted warm fun loving smiles. Welcoming friendly smiles.

And I responded. I connected with them. I started having conversations and connecting with the beautiful men in London.

One of the first times was when I was sitting in the tube. Now people dont talk in the tube. They dont even dare to look another in the eye. Its a "dog eat dog" environment. People push to get on the tube . They huff and puff about the lack of space. They snarl at each other like an angry pack of dogs. They are afraid of connection within such a confined space.

And I am sitting in my seat and there is an average slightly strange guy sitting opposite me. He s definitely not my type! He tries to catch my eye and I look away hurriedly.

And then I catch myself , making a judgement on another human being and choosing not to connect with him. And so I choose to do something different. I take myself in hand and I allow my eyes to meet his briefly across the carriage. It is little scary and I have to remind myself that he is simply another human being doing his best in life.

He acknowledges me with a couple of "knowing" glances and then as we both leave the train he effortlessly engages me in conversation. He asks about my day and shares with me a little about himself, including that he has personally woven the cardigan he is wearing. He is an interesting person, I conclude as we rise together on the escalator. At the top he asks if Id like to join him for a drink....and its surprisingly easy to say "no" in a way that is both kind and clear. He is not my type after all ...but I feel so much better off for having connected with him in that moment.

Maybe that was the kick off point when I became a Man Magnet, because after that I seemed to attract men who wanted to talk. I was open to connecting with them on the tube , the bus, in Waitrose ...wherever I was. They ask me out. At first I was so astonished at this turn around that I gave out my telephone number to a few of them. Then I realised the unworkability of giving out my telephone number just because somebody asked for it. Doh! I became more choosy. After all, now I understood my standing. I am someone who attracts huge interest and so I can afford to be picky about who I spend my time with. And I am having so much fun!

Date wise, I havent been keeping track and I hasten to add that Ive dated very few of the men who have asked me out recently. Are you keeping count of my 20- dates?

Last week I met a really drop dead gorgeous guy. Lets call him M. The trouble was it felt more like a business meeting than a date. Mind you this morning I did receive a lovely text from him saying how pleased he was to have me in his life and how my book had made a huge difference to him. He was already attracting more money! Still, not technically a date...

Conversely I had a date with a young Italian called Lion. Very yummy but massive age difference and not really relationship material. Very flattering all the same. It did get me clearer about the type of guy I see myself with and I wont be settling for anything less!

Next week I have a couple of dates on Monday and Wednesday but they are with "old" friends. There will be some flirting and they will be fun evenings but they dont really hold the possibility of a relationship developing.

So I am staying wide open ( gosh, that sounds rude and its not meant to be , honest!) to possibilities. I am responding to occasional emails online and open to chat with the men I meet ...and they are still appearing from everywhere! Yesterday I stopped to do the tyres on my car and this good looking macho looking man appeared and was delighted to offer me help....and I was delighted to receive his help.

And I am feeling much more confident in expressing myself with those men already in my life with whom I have a spark of a connection.

I stay committed to being in a loving relationship...... and in doing so I have stumbled across a loving committed relationship with myself. Yeeha!!

PS watch out for the forthcoming book "how to become a Man Magnet", subtitled "the fun way to discover authentic love"